The Real Me

What Most People see

The Real Me.

Me a strong, independent man in a wheelchair? That's what most people see.

What they miss are the anxieties, the overthinking, and insecurities that come with being disabled. These hidden struggles? They can be anything from trying to navigate places that are a total pain in the arse to get into, to dealing with what society assumes I can and can't do.

Prove my worth



It's a constant negotiation between who I actually am and how the world sees me. And it's really ironic, don't you think? I can give other people great advice, offer support where I can but I struggle to use it myself. Maybe that tendency to put others first comes from wanting to prove my worth, to make up for what I think are my shortcomings?

I've had years to learn that appearances  can be super deceiving. Underneath that surface of strength and resilience is a pretty complex emotional life, shaped by the unique challenges of, well, living with a disability. By the way before anyone asks, life is ok but Im just keeping it real. xxx